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Tweeting For Love

By Graham Green

My very first tweet, way back in 2008 was: "I have no idea what this is. Looks shit." Little did I know that Twitter was destined to change my life.

Usually we think of Twitter as being just another social networking site. "It’s like Facebook, but just the statuses", I commented at the time. But its become so much more than that. I now use it for more than just posting a picture of a cupcake, or to see if someone has Instagrammed topless photos. It’s developed into an unofficial and free cruising site, and if you ask me, one of the best.

Let me explain... One day, during a conversation about Weetbix, (yes, believe it or not, we were chatting about Weetbix - how lesbian of us - lol) a certain profile pic caught my eye... Thanks to Weetbix on Twitter we started a bizarre but incredibly exciting online affair, a month later we met in real life and fell in lust, almost immediately.

Now, if I’d have stuck to my original theory, that Twitter was junk, I would never have fallen in lust with somebody who was essentially a complete stranger.

What seems to work particularly well about using Twitter as a springboard for dating, is that I knew a lot more about the him before even meeting him face-to-face. When you look at somebody’s dating profile on regular websites, you know they’ve spent hours crafting the perfect answer to each question. They want to attract as many people as possible, so you don’t find all their bad habits listed, or their secret obsessions laid out on the screen in front of you. With Twitter, however, you can get a pretty good impression of someone just by looking at who they follow, what they post about, and how many times they’ve favourited certain tweets.

Currently, I know of at least four different couples who met via Twitter, which is crazy when you think it’s main purpose is to connect you with the latest news stories from around the world or, if your name is Julius Malema, to piss off white South Africa.

However, there's always a downside to something good, and the same applies to hooking up via Twitter. Unlike regular dating websites, you don’t just come into contact with people who live in your area. Therefore, you’re more likely to find the love of your life actually lives a short, 10-hour plane journey away. The amount of times I’ve been chatting up someone only to realise they live on the other side of the world.

On regular dating sites you can’t see who else your potential new lover is also chatting up. What you don’t know can’t hurt you right?. Not so with Twitter and thus, like all good social networking sites, Twitter has the power to make you a bunny-boiling, obsessive reader... and might even turn you into a stalker.

If you do meet somebody amongst the hashtags, but then later break up with him, you have the awkward task of deciding if and when to unfollow them. On top of that, you have to put up with him being retweeted on your timeline constantly. There’s also the worry that you’ll watch their new relationship unfurl in front of your beady little eyes. Trust me, it sucks bigtime.

I started off writing this article thinking that Twitter really was an amazing way to meet new people and boyfriends, and it is. The way you can connect with somebody hundreds of kilometres away is amazing. But I have to say, I think the longevity of a Twitter relationship is nowhere near the same as one that happens away from the web.

I’ve sort of made a vow that I’m never going to date anybody from Twitter again. Yeah right... until the next time... :)

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