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Tackling Winter Blues

By Lou Lou

Winter is fast on its way here in South Africa and as we all know there's nothing worse than a cold winter's day to dampen one's desires. It's all cold outside and all you want to do is snuggle in front of the TV eating soup and being cosy.

It may be a dream to some people, but it can be a nightmare for your sex life! It's proven that everyone feels more up for it in Spring and Summer, so don't be surprised if your sex life goes off the boil a bit!

But what can you do? It's possible that you may still fancy a bit of loving with your girlfriend, but she still fancies the sofa and soup option. You need to get her into gear, but don't want to come across as a lecherous old lesbian!

Well, there's always an opportunity in every scenario and you can make the most of those cosy nights in - just make sure that it's cosy and sexy!

If you know she's going to be coming in from the cold, then prepare everything to get her in the mood without it looking like you're just on the prowl for a good sex session. Run a hot, luxurious bubble bath and ensure that the bathroom is romantic and welcoming. Get a big fluffy dressing gown and towels ready, then have a selection of indulgent body washes to give her an exfoliating bath by candle light. You can then lovingly dry her off and slowly make love to her as you do. No one could resist such a sentiment.

If she reaches for the TV remote, persuade her to leave it alone and tempt her with a sensual massage. It's important at this time of year to make her feel more special than ever - no one feels at their peak in winter, so any extra compliments will always go a long way towards you getting your way!

If you're lucky enough to have an open fire, make the room into a sexy, lusty den and have massage oils and creams to hand ready to treat her to a winter wonderland. You can use winter-warm scents such as musk and cinnamon. Fill the room with candles and why not try some stimulating lubes or gels to give her that warm feeling from within.

You might find that by wrapping up warm and going for a long walk you'll get your energy levels up and ready to go, so why not secretly prepare the bedroom before you go out, so that when you both come back home, you can whisk her off her feet as soon as she steps foot in the house?

It's all about using your imagination and making sure you don't fall into bad habits of vegging out and getting lazy. You need to work on a relationship all year round and winter is no exception. We all need a pick me up, so you're sure to win Brownie points for trying extra hard. Your sex drive is still there, it's just a little hard to find in the winter - so make the effort to find it!

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